Now that the evenings are so much darker you might stay more home in the evenings and time can be more reflective. For those of you, who like to read, here is a book tip that I like to share with you. Maybe the book speaks to you, too.
I absolutely love the book “The Anatomy of Loneliness: How to find your way back to connection” by Teal Swan. Yoga is all about connection (Yoga means “to bring together”) and it is a very thoughtful and practical book that addresses the feeling of loneliness and getting back into connection not just on a personal level, but also what it means collectively.
It is about what the feeling of loneliness is made of, basically a feeling of separation (internal fragmentation which leads to the feeling of separation), shame and fear. She examines each of the three pillars and shows how to care-take of those feelings instead of ignoring them, pushing them away or belittling them.
It then moves on how to establish and keeping a connection to yourself and others, one that values emotions and builds on the principles of trust and intimacy. Most of us were not raised this way nor does society provide for a safe environment for authenticity.
“The pain of the human condition is that we walk this Earth with multiple billions of other people and yet each one of us feels alone. The trauma of our own disconnection from anything that we perceive as “other”. It’s enough that this disconnection causes us pain. But the truth is, it doesn’t stop here. The pain bleeds out across the planet. If you are truly connected to something, you cannot cause it pain without causing yourself pain, too. When we see ourself as disconnected, we no longer feel the ripple of oneness that is our fundamental truth. We no longer feel the impact that everything has on us and that we have on everything else and, as a result, we can cause something or someone else pain without perceiving it in ourselves.” – Teal Swan
“Belonging is one of the highest frequency vibrations in this universe. In fact, we could consider oneness, love and belonging to all be different “tones” of the same hue. It’s also a basic human need. So many of us in the spiritual field believe it’s not only possible but also good to transcend human needs. We use our spiritual practice to work against our biology instead of with it. But it is not possible to un-need something. It is only possible to meet that need in a different way. … To accept someone is to recognize any part of them as valid, regardless of whether you have the same opinion, feeling or perspective. What you will find is that validating others builds a sense of belonging.” – Teal Swan
Teal Swan published a new video, and it shows so nice some of her tools from the book, especially about the connection part – how to create connection with someone and how to keep it. It starts at about 24 minutes with the description of a relationship, in which both people are not happy, proceeds to the childhood wounds and resulting dynamics and shows towards the end how both persons can find a third option in a conflict, which will make feel both of them feel good. It is about being considerate about the other person’s feelings and capitalize on the other person’s best interest. In other words, one person will only find relieve if the best solution makes the other one happy, too. The video shows how she walks someone through this. I hope you’ll enjoy.
As it is the holiday season soon and many of us see their families and friends I felt like sharing this.
Merry Christmas to you and a Happy New Year 2019!